What happens to those women who don't want to be defined by labels? "Hi I am the wife of... or Hi I am the mother of..." Why am I not happy with just that? Why? There are women who work 2 jobs just to keep food in their kids mouths, clothes on their backs, and a roof over their heads and would be greatful to have a life to where they don't have to struggle and they can be with their kids and enjoy them, but dont have that opportunity to do so. Then there are those women who put their careers first, who don't want kids or realize too late that they did and wish they could go back and create that family they never knew they wanted. and then are those who want it all. Who don't just want to be defined as just a wife or mother, who want their own position in life. Who want to make just as much money as their spouse so they too can provide and help support their family and of course a little bit of their ego. That's me. I didn't know if I ever wanted to get married or have kids. but i did. you can't help when you fall in love, it just happens, ad kids sometimes come without warning. So I have a family and now I want a career. I am beginning to think that is too much....or is it. I work now with a group of women who would love not to have to work. Not to have to deal with the struggle of paying their bills, and some have husbands and some don't. My disappointment in myself is that I set goals and when I dont acheive them I feel like I am useless. Feeling bad for myself is for some a little crazy. my husband makes good money, we live comfortably, and really there is no need for me to work. unless I want to get my hair done or go out to lunch or buy a dress that I have to have. I feel like if I want to do those things then I should get my lazy butt off to work. That's what a normal person with perfectly good working body parts would do. Who knows what the right thing is to do I feel totally lost and no one understands me. Of course if I was one of those women working 2 jobs then I wouldn't feel sorry for me either. But I want to succeed on my terms and I feel like I just failed. I failed. I have nothing to offer and will never have anything to be proud of. So I guess I should start by being proud of my healthy family and forget about what I never accomplished. I hope that my son is successful, that's all I can hope for and be proud of.